Revisiting the Talwars- Aarushi case

There are many cues which one can guess from the Aarushi case. Some said, they are guilty some said they are not. Whatever be the personal opinion, the court has given it's verdict that the Talwar couple is guilty for their daughter Aarushi's murder.

Let us apply the knowledge of Non Verbal Communications and see what is correct and what is not. In an interview aired in 2011, Mr. Saeed Naqvi had an interview with  Talwar couple on Aarushi case.

The interview lasted for 25 mins, but during the 10 mins of the interview many things were visible. So, lets talk about the 10 mins of interview starting from the beginning.

Baselining

Baselining is an important procedure of lie detection ,where we note down the normal body language of a person to compare it with the nervous body language.

So, the baselining says Mr. Talwar is comfortable with cross hands, voice is low pitched and Mrs. Talwar has tilted her head slightly, nods to whatever is being said to acknowledge and has low voice tone.

Cue no. 1-  Convincing not Conveying

Generally a liar has a tendency to convince instead of conveying. We saw this when Mr. Naqvi asks Mr. Talwar, how come you didn't hear any noise? Are you both deep sleeper?  Mrs. Talwar says Probably....kind of....deep sleeper. I don't know , how we didn't hear anything. And then she does a weird nod which is kind of "whatever" nod that we use.
Now, Mr.Talwar also says," It's just that we didn't hear. it's just that we did not hear...." . The statement is more like convincing that they just didn't hear.

Cue no. 2 - Use of Hand gestures

Now, while baselining , we know that Mr. Talwar was sitting with crossed arms, but as soon as Mr. Naqvi tries to dig deeper, he uses his hands while talking. Here we see, slight deflection from the normal body language implying the question is making Mr. Talwar uncomfortable.

Cue no. 3 - Breaking of eye contact

Mrs. Talwar, in her normal body language makes eye contact even if Mr. Talwar speaks, but as soon as he starts talking about the events that happened that night, she breaks the eye contact and looks down. It might also be said, that she is sad, but we will get to that.

Cue no. 4- Nose rubbing & Face touching
As soon as Mr. Talwar explains the events, he rubs his nose and scratches the face. These kind of gestures are called manipulators. People use them when they have to put efforts to say which they don't want to.

Cue no. 5- Lip & Jaw movement

When Mr. Talwar explains the events, very quickly Mrs. Talwar moves the lips and jaw for a second. This is again a sign of impatience , symbolizing she wants to get over with this topic very quickly.
( This was not visible in picture, so we didn't include that)

Cue no. 6- Change in breathing patterns

If you watch the video , you can see the change in breathing patterns also. Mr. Talwar sometimes holds the breath and sometimes take longer breaths. Same goes with Mrs.Talwar. She holds the breath while the discussion goes on.

Cue no. 7- Response latency

Usually ,the response time for a question is anywhere between 2-4 seconds. If you see the delay or quick reply in the pattern , there is something going on, The liar typically takes very short time to respond, as he/she has prepared the lie and wants to get over with it quickly. When Mr.Naqvi asks the couple, what do you think happened? Mrs. Talwar,quickly uses fillers and then says we really don't like to talk about it. Her response time is less than a second, which means she has prepared the answer.

Cue no. 8 - The sigh of relief

Mrs.talwar takes a really long sigh when the topic changes from Aarushi event to their compounder Krishna, implying she is relieved when the topic was switched, again another red flag, that why is she relieved!

Cue no. 9 - Head Nod

Being asked about the argument with the compounder Krishna , Mr. Talwar says issue was some patient's work, but he shakes his head NO,implying subconsciously that whatever he is saying is not true at all. Head shaking adds up to a lot, because when we lie, our brain forgets to control the body movements.

Cue no. 10 - Cross arms

When Mr.Naqvi connects the compunder Krishna to the event , again we see change in the behavior pattern of Mrs. Talwar. She is seen crossed arms, which can mean she is feeling uncomfortable again, or is concealing something.

Cue no. 11-The absence of emotions

The absence of emotions also means something. When someone is talking about their dead child , they are supposed to show sadness, which is totally lacking in both of them. Also, they claimed they are innocent . If at all, they would have been innocent, they would have shown anger on CBI, Police, System etc, which was lacking too.

Therefore , the two prominent emotions Sadness & Anger were missing in the couple.
When we think, we are not speaking, we are letting something out even then. The power of Non Verbals is so much that we hardly have to listen to the person to know the truth .

P.S-  Here is the video of the interview, so that you can see the full video. The analysis is done from 0:00 - 10:00 of the video.

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PM Modi's Body Language in G20

This G20 saw many things. Many topics were discussed ,some were very serious ,some were not . Our PM, Mr. Narendra Modi unveiled the Gandhi statue there and also met other Indians . Let us analyse the body language of our PM in G 20.

1. The Handshake

Researchers say, a good handshake is worth 3 hours long face to face conversation. So, if you want to give a good impression , have a good handshake. Handshake was given less importance until recently. Now, it is given a lot of weight,even the position of handshake also matters. There are 9 types of handshake,we will not go into detail of the types.

Let us look at the below picture.

 In this picture , we can see what a dominating handshake looks like. The person who approaches with a palm down will automatically gain the upper hand. A person having the upper hand feels powerful.

We generally see, PM Modi giving a subjugating handshake, (which is done by person in white shirt in the above picture )but here we saw him with dominating handshake for few country leaders.

With Canadian President Stephen Harper

With French President Francois Hollande

With Saudi Arabia Crown Prince Salman bin Abdulaziz Al Saud

With German Chancellor Angela Merkel 

With US President Barack Obama 

This kind of handshake shows, PM Modi is very confident and wants to give a signal to other countries that they should not take India lightly. India is to grow very fast and steady. It seems the signal was well perceived. 

2. The trick 

Brasilian President Dilma Rouseff ,however, gave our PM a double hander( kind of handshake ,where both the hands are used) which is still polite. She knows how to tackle a dominating handshake. 

With Brazilian President Dilma Rouseff

Look at how the Brazilian President has clenched PM Modi's hand, implying she is equally powerful. 

3. Open Posture

This time we saw another change in PM Modi's body language which is increased use of Illustrators and open postures. 

Talking with the hands is the sign of honesty. It's like, our PM is saying " I have nothing to hide". The smile is also genuine as the eyes are contracted and cheek bone area is lifted,meaning, he is very much into the conversation with Putin.

4. Guarded 

Our PM knows when to speak and what to speak.  Look at the picture now. 

Presence of both US and Russian President is making him a bit uncomfortable as he is playing with his fingers suggesting he is very cautious about the statements he is giving or about to give. When we are uncomfortable or feel vulnerable we close ourselves down. This is already in PM's mind ,that he should not close himself up but he has guarded himself with his arms in front of his chest. 

5. Good move

Australian Prime Minister is very particular about his *image ( * I will be posting a whole blog dedicated to him and his image ) . He made sure he gave dominating handshake to every leader that comes on stage while greeting. This usually happens when the person positions himself in the right, then automatically the next person coming from left is going to get a dominating handshake and the other person has no other option but to subjugate. 

Australian Prime Minister ,Tony Abbott

As per the plan , the Australian Prime Minister Tony Abbott offered the handshake, in the picture it looks like a normal handshake, but if you look carefully, you can see the position of President Tony's hand . He is trying to lift his arm, which is like putting effort to twist our PM's hand, to make it a subjugate handshake. Then he quickly comes forward and hugs our PM, put his hand on PM's back. And here's the twist, our PM pats him twice. The pat was so strong that it could be heard clearly in the video. When a handshake ends up in hug, and moreover, a pat in the back , it means, it's not equal. One who pats is the superior . Patting in the back is like treating the other person as a child like, good job son/girl. 

Therefore, all efforts of Australian Prime Minister, Tony Abbott went Null & Void ,when the pat on the back happened. 

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Captaincy Mere Haath Mein

P3G is broken and it's official now. The competition for the captaincy did it all.

Let us look at the non verbals of the housemates before ,after and during the task .

1. Dimpy

When Dimpy hears that all the housemates have to give a name for the captaincy, she starts playing with her ring,suggesting she is not happy with the idea. These kind of movements are call Manipulators.
If you see this gesture by a person( playing with wedding ring),when you mention their marriage,that means they are going through some problem in their married life.
However, this is not the case here. It is a classic use of manipulator,meaning not liking what is just being said.

2. Praneet

When Upen suggests Praneet's name for captaincy, Praneet starts fondling his beard and the neck area,which means he is calming himself down to not look very happy. This gesture is called "Self Soothing "gesture. We do this gesture,when we are trying to comfort ourselves. ( We could not capture it in lens)

3. Karishma

Karishma is not at all happy with the idea of Gautam's name being suggested. 

4. Preetam 

While discussing re-election, we can see Preetam with a stance of ownership. This is a very dominating stance and is also very confident, suggesting Preetam is very confident about what he is saying, which was, Gautam wants to be captain. 

5. Puneet
When Upen says Puneet,why didn't he give his name for captaincy,Puneet answers, he thought he was not eligible for the captaincy. The catch is, when he says that, he does a one sided shoulder shrug,meaning he doesn't believe that. We see one sided shoulder shrug in case of non surety .
One sided shoulder shrug is hard to catch on picture,therefore, we didn't include it.

6.  Praneet
Praneet just couldn't hide his smile when Diandra recommends Praneet for captaincy. He tries to conceal it, but gives a micro expression of happiness.

7. Diandra

Then it is Diandra who shows hesitation by rubbing her nose while announcing Gautam was supported by majority, for captaincy.  

She also gives a "Mouth shrug" when she names Gautam implying deep embarrassment for him.

8. Praneet 

When Praneet says Dimpy ," Actual mein ,main captain banna hi nahi chahta". He immediately retreats from his position to little bit back as if he is not the part of the statement he just said. 

He also rubs his eyes mentioning, he does not have any interest in captaincy . This behavior is called Eye blocking behavior,where we subconsciously try to shut out eyes on people, or what ever is being said , like they don't want to see the person whom they have just lied,or backing off from the person.

9. Praneet again 

Praneet was already angry with Gautam,but the anger suddenly escalates when Gautam measures the trust factor on percentage 100,90,80,70,60,50,40,30,20 to 0. 

Look at the disgust on Praneet's face, poor Preetam,he thinks Praneet is cutting joke, 

10. Dimpy

Dimpy is happy that they are fighting, we caught just a glimpse of her, trying her best to hide the smile.

11. Preetam

Preetam has been passing comments on women every now and then, however , he pretends to be funny. But the deep hatred for women was obvious when he says out loud to Dimpy,that Dimpy broke their friendship and also some comment about women " Jahan jahan gayi hai,isne gharon ko break kiya hai".

You can look the angry glare and pressed lips of Preetam just before he taunts Dimpy. 

On an average 10 mins conversation two people can send out up to 800 non verbal signals to each other. Therefore, every movement of body matters. 

There are many more twists and turns to come. 

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Lie Detection & HR

Lie Detection is a subject to have plenty of potential in any field, be it governance, sales,recruitment,business even the personal relations. In this article, we would know about how and why is Lie detection important. I would be posting about various branches where lie detection can be used, first is HR . 

For HR professionals:

Human Resources Professionals are the people who are directly connected to the employees,their issues, their concerns . HR Professionals are expected to be gregarious, good team player, and also a good leader. Lets find out few points where Lie Detection can be used.

Imagine a post is vacant and your boss tells you to fill it up ASAP. You bear all the pain from screening the CVs to the interview. The employee that you hire leaves in 6 months . How would you feel then? What if, I tell you that you could have foreseen that during the interview. You can know what a candidate feels when he/she mentions previous work ex, if he/she is honest,ethical,loyal etc. Imagine you could catch a lie spot on, just in the beginning. You can hire the best talent with a little application of this technique. 

With the increased work molestation cases in office, HR professionals are the first ones to be informed and take action. If you know Lie detection, you would be open to listen to both the parties and know who is speaking the truth. Whether an employee is telling the truth if he/she says it's very urgent to go home,because someone is ill, or when someone says he/she didn't come because of bad stomach,you would know everything. After all, these all factors matters,be it appraisal or promotion. 

Lie is a short word ,but for some it's very big. Generally, we connect it and weigh it according to the situation but as they say " A lie is a lie even if it's white". 

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The Wild Cards

So, we saw that two beautiful girls are inducted into Bigg Boss 8 house Rene & Dimpi.

Rene

Since, Rene was the first to come , we'll look at Rene's Non Verbals first. Rene uses a lot of words like " dhamaal " " phod diya" " watt " " Thali maar deti "  through statement analysis we know such words symbolize aggressiveness.

1. Open

She is very open to all. Her gestures are always open when she talks. She rarely closes herself in the first day which is good because she wants to be friends with everyone.

2. Confident

Look at the way she is sitting. The "Elbow pop" is a sign of confidence and power . She thinks herself as powerful and is very confident about her game plan.

3. Pacifiers

However, she starts using pacifiers when people present there talk about her to become captain, suggesting she is calming herself down. She does want the same, but also wants to go very slow on that.
We noticed a series of pacifiers during the conversation.

Dimpi 

Unlike Rene, Dimpi is very girly and seems calm. 

1. Head tilts

She gives a head tilt while meeting people , but not all. Head tilt is generally for those, whom we like, to portray ourselves as soft and gentle. 

2. Introvert 

Her posture says it all. She is very closed and will take time to open . Look at how she has closed herself. 

Crystal clear opposite personalities 

Rene and Dimpi are just opposite to each other, Rene is open and bold whereas Dimpi is calm and shy. 

Lets see how their journey goes. 

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Did Gautam choose the right team?

When Bigg Boss announces the competition for the Captainship. Gautam was the first one to go inside the confession room and apply to become captain.

1. Is he superior?

Gautam's lips curl one side flashing a contempt for the other housemates , when he mentions they have problems with him. Contempt often means feeling superior,well in this case it means he thinks the housemates as inferior. As they were no signs of superiority when he mentions how and why he can be a good captain.

2. Praneet is not happy

When Bigg Boss told Praneet to decide a candidate in consent with other housemates to contest with Gautam, He pursed his lips, meaning he was not in consent with the idea, he had to say something but he chose to keep quiet.

3. Gautam chooses Puneet and Preetam

After Gautam chooses Puneet and Preetam, Karishma tells Preetam to make his choice beforehand. She doesn't want Gautam to win, so says indirectly not to support Gautam in the competition. Preetam immediately backs off, but very slightly while Diandra comes forward hearing the idea. It means Preetam doesn't subscribe to the idea of cheating on Gautam.

4. Preetam consults Praneet

Praneet tells Preetam that already Gautam brings negativity,so it is his ( Preetam's ) call whether to help Gautam or not.

Preetam asks Praneet , whom does he support and Praneet says Upen. Then again , we see Preetam backing a little bit, which is hard to be seen in pictures, meaning disagreement to the thought.

5. Puneet & Preetam

Now we know one thing , that Puneet is a terrible liar. Whenever he lies or he doesn't like the person , he doesn't look into the eye. 

During the whole conversation , when Preetam asks Puneet what does he think, Puneet says he will support Gautam , he never looks into the eye of Preetam and says that which means he is not going to support Gautam in the competition.

6. Already sad

It is a subtle sign,which can be seen little in picture. Puneet already looks sad while saying all the best to Gautam, because he knows he is not going to participate honestly.

7. Focus on something else

We can see Puneet was more interested in watching Gautam, while Preetam still tries his best in the competition.

8. And it's over.

Preetam looks at Gautam that he has been dragged, but is still trying to let Upen out.

As soon as Puneet sees Gautam has touched the white line, he gives up in the competition,as if he was waiting for this to happen.

Look at Puneet he looks relaxed whereas Preetam has held the hands of Upen .


9. Puneet saying the truth

And this Puneet saying the truth to Upen,that he was in Upen's side. See how close Puneet is to Upen while talking and how is he looking into Upen's eye.

These are the non verbal cues that we get before a person speaks or does anything.

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